THE COMPLETE WORKS
BRANN
THE ICONOCLAST
VOLUME III
THE BRANN PUBLISHERS, Inc.
NEW YORK CITY
Copyrighted, 1898, by
MRS. W. C. BRANN
THE BRANN PUBLISHERS, LTD.
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MARRIAGE AND MISERY.
SOME SANCTIFIED DEBAUCHERY.
THERE are probably a million women in this land living
lives of legalized prostitution; who conceive children in
hate of husbands they abhor, bring them forth in bitterness
of spirit to be reared in an atmosphere of discord
off-spring stamped from their very inception with the die of
the criminal or the courtesan. Yet the purists and pietists
"view with alarm" the vast increase in the number of
divorces; are weeping and wailing because women will not
suffer in silence a bondage that is bestial a prostitution
preëminently the worst in the world, that of loveless
marriage. Day and night the doleful jeremiad goes up from
these pious pharisees that the laxity of American divorce
laws is imperiling the morals of the people, sapping the
home and threatening to topple our entire system into ruin
irremediable.
And what remedy do they propose? Uniform divorce
laws and a reduction of the number of causes for which
marital bonds may be legally broken. This would be equiv-
alent to enacting a law that people should not summon a
physician except in certain dire exigencies. Those who
would elevate public morals by repressing legal separations
appear to consider lax divorce laws the cause rather than
the result of marital misery. They are pounding away
vigorously at the shadow, leaving the substance untouched.
These foolish philosophers appear to be harboring the
hallucination that where divorce is not difficult, husbands
and wives are taken on trial; that matches are made just
for amusement or to gratify a prurient passion, and that
women pretending to respectability change their lawful
companions much as men of the world do their mistresses;
also that where it is next to impossible to break the
marriage bond it is regarded with greater veneration and
entered into with much greater caution. Doubtless a few old
roués and adventuresses might make a business of marrying
if divorce could be had for the asking, but it is an insult
to the better class of American women to suggest that any
law could so demoralize them that they would deliberately
wed men with whom they did not expect to pass their lives.
Wedlock is holy only where there exists mutual love and
respect. Such unions do not need to be reinforced by strict
marriage laws. They mean much more than a "civil
contract"; they mean devotion unto death, and would
stand unshaken if every law known to man should perish
from the earth. Only such unions should endure. All
others are unholy and unclean civil contracts to commit a
crime against posterity and should be dissolved. Those
who protest so bitterly against divorce, who would compel
people to live together after love has flown, appear to
think the marriage ceremony a thaumaturgic incantation
which sanctifies debauchery, a modern correlative of the
ancient rites of Bacchus.
That eminent statistician, Hon. Carroll D. Wright, has
recently stated that during the twenty years ending with
1886, there were granted in the United States 328,716
decrees for divorce; that the number in 1867 was 9,937 as
against 25,535 in 1886, being an increase of nearly 157 per
cent., while the population of the country increased during
the same period only about 60 per cent. Mr. Wright
added, almost unnecessarily one would think, that "the
divorce statistics do not fully indicate or measure the mar-
ital infelicity or social misery of the country; they only
measure the misery which can no longer abide conditions,
and when parties have the courage to publicly seek re-
lease from demoralizing burdens."
Those words in quotation are worthy serious study.
"When they have the courage" to go into court and
recite their grievances, to lay bare their torn hearts to the
world, to be badgered and baited by shyster lawyers, made
the cynosure of the rabble, and have the degradation and
despair which they would fain hide from their dearest
friends, caught up by a prurient press and heralded to the
four winds of Heaven! Only people who have the courage
can stand that kind of thing, can hope for legal relief from
bonds that make life a burden. And what kind of people
possess this courage? Those who least deserve relief
brazen women and brutish men. How can a high-bred
gentleman go into court and brand the wife to whom he
poured the whole wealth of his heart, as a wanton
confess himself that most pitiable of all objects, a cuckold? If
they have children, how can he deliberately cloud their
whole lives? How can a modest, sensitive woman go before
a rabble and rehearse the brutal scenes that have made her
home a hell? No, they cannot do it; they must suffer in
silence or quietly depart, leaving their unworthy mates to
explain the separation as their interest or maliciousness
may suggest.
The number of divorces has indeed become appalling:
but this is but a partial suppuration of the sore. It argues,
not that divorce laws are too lax, but that society is
rotten. Marital misery cannot be decreased by denying it
relief. If a woman does not love and honor her husband
above all other men, she might as well be in a brothel as
compelled to share his bed. If a man does not love his wife,
happiness cannot abide in that home. People who do not
desire to live together should be allowed to legally separate
without being compelled to go into court with their grievances.
It is a matter which they alone are competent to
wisely decide. They have entered into a "civil contract"
to make each other happy. If either wishes to annul
that contract it is prima facie evidence that it has not been
fulfilled, is void, and should be so pronounced by the
courts.
To guard against hasty and ill-considered action the
law might provide that application for divorce be followed
by a separation of six months, during which period the
marital relations would be suspended in law and in fact.
At the expiration of that period, an application that the
divorce be made absolute should be followed by a decree
to that effect, proper provision made for the children, if
any, resulting from the union. Unquestionably such a
régime would increase the number of divorces. More
people would "have the courage" to seek separation from
uncongenial mates if they did not have to go into court
with a lingering tale of woe to explain to all Christendom,
through the columns of a sensation-seeking,
garbage-grabbing press, why said mates were to them a source of
misery. It would afford relief to many cultured gentlemen
and refined ladies to whom our present barbarous
system of procedure offers only a cure infinitely worse than
the complaint.
The objections that libertines would marry young ladies
with deliberate intent to secure divorces is not without
weight; but we cannot well condemn those already in the
Slough of Despond to remain there because to help them
out will afford a few fools golden opportunity to fall in.
With the law as suggested, young ladies really deserving
our consideration would not be so ready to contract hasty
marriages with men of whom they knew little. As matters
now stand many incautious women are victimized by
adventurers who do not hestitate to marry as often as
opportunity offers.
While we may properly look to law-reform to relieve
much of the marital misery now existing, we should strive
to prevent, rather than to provide a panacea for this ill
in the future. The church might profitably allow the
heathen a holiday and devote a little more of its energies
to teaching the American people that marriage is more
than a "civil contract" that may be entered into much as
one does into a contract for a car-load of cotton or a
pound of putty. It should set its face like flint against
"marriages of convenience"; should launch some of its
thunderbolts it is now wasting on the heads of harmless
agnostics, at those pious people who teach their daughters
that the chief end and aim of their lives must be to marry
money instead of men. Our public schools should not
waste quite so much time ascertaining the number of bones
in the caudal appendages of the ichthyosaurus, or determining
just when the paleozoic gave place to the mesozoic,
and that in turn was tumbled into the unlamented
erstwhile by the cenozoic time; but should devote an hour
occasionally to teaching the rising generation something of
the sacredness of Lamartine's trinity the trinity of the
father, mother and child.
That is the only hope for the future. Laws cannot
make a people virtuous or happy. They cannot prevent
mistakes in marriages. They cannot guard the sanctity
of the home.
(THE END)