THE FIFTH COMMANDMENT.
BY LURANA W. SHELDON.
(1862-1945)
IT
is well that existence imposes its first duty upon humanity
at that period when reason is but a chaos of desires, and before
the phenomena of living have become comprehensible to
the vision; for, in the whole category of obligations that man
claims from man, what is more unreasonable than thanks for
a questionable service or gratitude for a deed (involving all
the issues of life) that was conceived in lust and consummated
in thoughtlessness? For man to respect his fellow-man it is
necessary that reason should harmonize with justice; but for
every child to revere the parent who bore it there is no requirement
possible beyond the most passive obedience.
The reasons for this reverence from child to parent have
never yet attained definite shape or countenance. To a very
few the pleasure of being suffices to insure a degree of thankfulness;
to a greater number the bond of sympathy is Nature's
balm of healing and forgiveness; but over all is the veil of sentimental
reverence that shields the parent with its lustrous glow
and protects him from realizing "how sharper than a serpent's
tooth it is to have a thankless child."
From the precepts of Moses this veil has descended a fabric
curiously woven with the warp of love, and yet so distorted by
the woof of selfishness that its outlines, seen by nobler eyes,
seem strangely like the cloak that masks egotism and hypocrisy.
Yet the anticipation of reverence, although tacit, is unexplainable
few honest men or women being able conscientiously to
say by what right they expect or demand such a sentiment.
The question of possession suffices for many, but the right of
possession becomes then a serious problem.
The suffering and watchfulness of a loving mother claim
a reward for martyrdom instead of duty. The forethought
and providence of a devoted father seek their compensation in
the adoration of offspring rather than in the approval of mind
and conscience. The irresponsible (and naturally the most
prolific) father prates of conception as the "divine right of
man," and bows his head submissively over his "God-given
children;" but the divinity is not so evident to the offspring
when they reap in the whirlwind the sins sowed by their
progenitor.
The honoring of parents is accepted without argument only
by that class of persons that are without understanding, and
those others who, for reasons more selfish than holy, are glad to
enforce the commandment to its fullest. To others, more
thoughtful and more just in their exactments, the "honor" of a
child creates perpetual wonder; and to those able to gage accurately
the unworthiness of most parents this enforced regard
brings a twinge of pity.
Reverence and respect are the results of reason and knowledge-
the outcome of familiarity with the noble attributes of
another. To the mind of a child such deductions are impossible;
the undeveloped brain has no consciousness of superiority,
and the awakened affections follow only the first impulse of
Nature. Whether a parent is worthy of honor is a question
for adult reasoning a problem to be solved by the child's future
condition. Length of days weighs but lightly in the
scales of justice, and it is doubtful if this vague promise ever
strengthened honor.
That child reverence should not be questioned is a matter of
theory, to be decided only by the quality of the results that
might follow in the wake of honest experiment. If right be
right and wrong be wrong, a similarity of tissues should not
delude the judgment; and if virtue should be praised and sin
condemned, the mere relation of the family should count as
nothing. So long as reverence is bestowed where only regard
is merited, the most undeserving mother may bask in the glow
of self-complacency; and, white honor remains a staple article
in the family, the father may rest at ease upon the throne of
content.
Do women honor themselves when they hamper their own
progress by the physical burdens of overproduction? Do men
reverence the talents in their own possession when they stunt
their development by the narcotic of licentiousness and cramp
their own abilities by over-stimulation to exertion? Does
either parent, by ignoring the just claims of the unborn, give
due homage or gratitude to the marvelous power through
which the phenomenon of procreation is possible?
Through a careful inventory of one's faults and graces, and
from an honest accounting of one's health and finances, how
many can say, honorably, "I am worthy a child," or "It is certain
I can conceive without injustice to my offspring?" What
percentage of mankind is fit to be fathers, and how many
women have sufficient strength of mind or physical energy to
equip their daughters? Men that shrink in horror from the
theory of extermination rush headlong into the deed of conception
without a passing thought of their own inconsistency.
The liberation of the spirit from an exhausted body seems to
them a deed of most heinous nature; but the incarceration of
a soul in mortal flesh is an act that receives scant consideration.
What compensation can a man make to a crippled son?
What penance can atone for the "gift" of insanity to offspring?
Is the birthright of poverty, disease, or ignorance the vehicle
through which to generate reverence? It is the most prolific
parent who trusts all to chance, or "casts his cares on God," in
this most vital undertaking. The thoughtful man considers
well his deeds, and a keen recognition of his own responsibility
makes him ever more just toward each unborn claimant.
But as yet of the thoughtful there is but a small minority a
handful who are worthy or who approximate worthiness.
That the placid acceptance of homage is responsible for this
seems probable when o~e considers the virtue of incentive.
The brutal propagator of an unkempt herd has little ambition
above his routine of drudgery, and with each increase in his
numbers sinks lower and lower into the fatal slough where his
children may follow him. Yet such a human animal, in all his
hideousness, demands the "reverence" of his child; and the
courts of justice, white they protect the victim, encourage and
indorse the exactment of the father!
The mother of the slums, in her uncleanliness and alleged
viciousness, and the wealthy woman in her brownstone home,
with her petty vanities and ignoble ambitions, are alike the
recipients of reverence from children. That this reverence is
merely the glamour of sentiment makes it no less grateful or no
less complete and wonderful in its achievements. That its
power for evil is as patent as for good impairs no vestige of its
triumphal glory; and that it protects on the one band what it
condemns on the other seems in no wise to detract from the
luster of its holiness. When judgment and reason fail, sentiment
guards and cherishes; when example and precept are not
forthcoming, honor blinds and finds excuses.
Across a chasm of errors reverence throws a stable bridge,
but it is doubtful if the structure leads directly toward improvement.
Less affectionate delusion might arouse the sluggard
and act as an incentive to the unambitious father. Less unmerited
homage and reverence toward the mother might kindle
to healthy glow the fires of justice and awaken a desire to be
called more worthy.
LURANA W. SHELDON.
New York.